October 19-23 marks the 2nd annual Fat Free Talk Week; an international 5- day body activism camapign to draw attention to body image issues and the damaging impact of the ‘thin ideal’ on women in society. Please watch the following powerful video:
So I've been thinking a lot about what “fat talk” is. It may be different for everyone, certain phrases we use more often than others to describe ourselves or others. For me, the traditional “I feel fat” is one I used to use a lot. It makes absoultely no sense really because fat is not a feeling or emotion. What I was really saying was, “I feel insecure” which is what I felt a lot. I will never forget one night several years ago, it was the weekend before I married my ex husband. At that point I had starved my way down to my own “thin ideal”. We had gone out with friends and were coming home, my ex husband and his brother and myself were walking up our front porch. We were laughing about something, I can't remember what, but out of no where I said, “Wait, stop, I need to ask you something” They both stopped and looked at me, “Do I look skinny?” They both cracked up laughing, and I laughed too, but I never told them that I wasn't joking. As ridiculous as the question was, it was my own fat talk, my own cry for help. I was the thinnest I had ever been, and the most insecure.
The women of Tri Delta are asking you to make an honest effort to stop the fat talk during the week of October 19-23. This goes beyond making comments about yourself, but also about other people.
Do I hear crickets chirping?
Here are some examples:
She shouldn't be wearing a 2 piece.
Ew, he has man boobs.
Is she fat or pregnant?
Holy cow, did you see her picture of Facebook? She's gained like 50 pounds since high school.
I know, I know, we're all guilty of a little crap talking now and then and we may think it's harmless. But I think the damage that is done is that it reinforces the fact that thin is better than fat. And really, isn't that the root of the problem?
I should also mention that fat talk also is also phrases like, “If I only had your thighs, I could…” or “I would give anything to have a flat tummy like yours.” Talking badly about yourself or comparing yourself to others is what I consider an all out assault on your self esteem.
So for 5 days let's all try to make a change, and hopefully (fingers crossed) it will make a difference in your life and in someone else's that you tell about it. Hint, hint. Pass it on.
Go to this website to sign the pledge to end fat talk!