Over at daniellelaporte.com, Danielle wrote her own post listing what she sucks at. She says that by listing your shortcomings, you give yourself permission to pursue your genius. You may have heard me say before, “If it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no” and this is exactly what this is eluding to.
So many of us women try to be the best at everything. But, many times we just naturally suck at it, and/or loathe it all together. I'm here to tell you- most likely this is just how you naturally are. So, let's let go of the shame, guilt and embarrasment. Stop apologizing for it once and for all.
So, it's my turn to list some things I absolutely suck at. Here they are:
I suck at taking orders. This is why I’m happiest being my own boss. I have been written up on previous jobs for insubordination (mostly back talk and eye rolling).
I suppose I can add to the above- I’m terrible at ass kissing. Every part of my being avoids this. I give compliments and acknowledgments only when they come straight from my heart. I could probably change a tire (I don't know how) in the pitch black dark easier than I can kiss someone's ass.
I suck at having compassion for people who are stuck in their story. There, I said it. I try and try, but I cannot wrap my head around the fact that someone cannot move past their victim role, especially after a decent amount of time has passed by. In the coaching world we call this, “something I cannot be with”. I cannot be with people who choose to stay victims.
I suck at house cleaning. I told my husband when we we’re first dating, “I’m good at a lot of things, cleaning house is not one of them”. I wanted him to have full disclosure before he thought about marrying me. I swear it’s in people’s DNA. My mom and my sister are house cleaning maniacs. I grew up in a house that looked like a model home. No dirt or mess anywhere. That strand of DNA clearly skipped me.
I suck at keeping in touch. There are so many people I think of on a regular basis that I truly care about, but when it comes to actually picking up the phone and calling, I drop the ball time and time again. Months go by and the guilt creeps in, so I procrsatinate more.
I also suck at following instructions, especially tutorials. Just the word “tutorial” makes my skin crawl. Especially when it comes to technology. When I ask someone how to do something and they reply with, “Oh there’s this great 15-minute video tutorial on You Tube”, my head immediately hits the desk. No thank you in a million years. I don’t have the patience to learn something I really don’t care about learning. If it’s going to take longer than 1-2 minutes for me to learn, I’d be happy to pay someone to just do it for me.
So, what do you suck at?