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I was struck by something recently. I can’t remember where I heard it, but someone was talking about of the amount of time we are here on earth compared the time of all eternity. It’s like a micro-second.

And I know this. The tagline for my business is “because life’s too short for it to not kick ass”, so I totally get it. But for some reason, hearing that made me a bit panicked and really got me thinking about this micro-second we are here on earth.

In my coaching school there was a phrase, “the things you can’t be with”. Some people can’t be with Republicans, or animal haters, or drug addicts, etc. It’s the things you can’t stand, that make you angry or uncomfortable. The things that you strive in your life to be the opposite of. Many times it’s things that we just don’t understand, nor do we care to.

One of those things for me is people that live on the surface of their lives. The people that don’t give a shit about living a great life for themselves.

You might call me judgmental, or even mean. And I get that many people don’t even KNOW that they are doing this.  I didn’t for a long time. I mean my entire 20’s could be summed up in any Ke$ha song, (which I don’t regret at all. And thank GOD this was before Facebook). But, when you get to your 30’s and 40’s in my humble opinion it’s time to start LIVING. Time is a’ticking.

So, here’s what I mean by living on the surface of your life:

  • You think that happiness will come your way and the answer to your problems lies in being thinner, having the perfect partner and/or having more money.
  • You are either validated or destroyed by what people think of you.
  • You’re constantly settling in many areas of your life.
  • You are constantly complaining about things but you refuse to take action on them.

I meet people every day that want something. Everyone does. They want something bigger, better and juicier than they have now. They envy those that have it and are sometimes convinced they will never get it.

So, what’s the solution?


You are. Stop spending money on botox, or jumping from relationship to relationship, or hustling to make more money. Yes, all of those things can make you feel good, but they’re fleeting. Actually, if you want to spend time and money on those things, go ahead, but please know at the end of the day, you’re still you. Start investing in YOURSELF. I’m not talking bubble baths and pedicures. Go to therapy, read self help books, do Oprah’s life class, hire a life coach to kick your ass into figuring out what you REALLY want, helping you strategize on how you’re going to get it and holding your ass accountable to actually DO it.  Or, even do the work by yourself. I don’t care how you get it, but I beg you to just try.

When I really think about the end of my life, which could be today, 50 years from now or anywhere in between, I really ask myself:

  • What would I do differently?
  • Where would I have told fear to fuck off?
  • Did I do EVERYTHING I wanted?

You guys. A micro-second is all we’re here for. Whether your last day is today or any day…how do you want to describe your life?





You get to choose.