Welcome to episode 107 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! The conversation you’ll hear on today’s show is so important; it’s about friendships, and how to develop the intimacy and BFFs you really want.

And there is no one better qualified to speak to this than Shasta Nelson. Shasta is the founder of GirlfriendsCircle.com, a woman's friendship matching site for women across the US and Canada. She also has authored two books on the subject of friendship, Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy. Plus she writes regularly for The Huffington Post and has appeared on Katie Couric and The Today Show.

Today we talk about the importance friendship plays in enriching our lives, changing us and keeping us healthy. Shasta also explains how to develop intimacy and when to know a friendship is ready to develop deeper intimacy.

You’ll Also Hear:

  • What is “ghosting” and how and why does it show up in friendships?
  • Why do we need intimacy for survival?
  • Our brain registers physical pain and emotional rejection in the same way: true or false?
  • What are the 3 requirements of friendship?
  • How to know how vulnerable we can be in a friendship.
  • What are our common misunderstandings about friendship?
  • What does Frientimacy mean?
  • The positivity ratio: how do you know when a relationship is more positive than negative?
  • And much more!

Also on today’s episode we explore why research has shown we need two to three close friends, and whether or not Shasta believes that is true. Plus she shares why resentment towards your best friend about lack of availability is actually a sign to develop additional friendships and deeper intimacies within them.

Whether you’re 25 or 75 or somewhere in between, friendships are a critical piece of our overall health. Today’s episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast will help you go deeper in friendships that are ready for it, develop new ones and appreciate the joy in the existing ones you have.


Shasta Nelson’s personal website
Shasta’s blog on friendship
Friendships Don’t Just Happen, by Shasta Nelson
Frientimacy, by Shasta Nelson
Frientimacy website
Shasta Nelson on Twitter
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ShastaShasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada. Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her booksFrientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and HappinessFriendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends. She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.

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