This episode officially kicks off a series I’m calling Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. Today, my friend Elizabeth DiAlto and I are talking about doing the work in terms of racism, white supremacy, and more.
You might wonder what this has to do with personal development? Well, the deeper I get into my own personal development work and even trainings, the more I can see that the root of the problems many of us face (feeling not good enough, lack of confidence, etc.) is rooted in white supremacy and patriarchy. And trust me when I tell you there was a time many years ago when I would have disagreed with that. However, back then I hadn’t done enough work, nor (although largely unconscious at the time) had I wanted to admit that a system that I largely benefitted from could be the problem.
One of the heavy topics I am passionate about dismantling is rape culture. The system that normalizes and trivializes the sexual assault and harassment of women. The idea that women’s bodies are disposable and that sexual violence is normal. A couple of years ago I realized that there is a direct connection from rape culture to both patriarchy and white supremacy, and so began my work over here on my own, so I can better educate. This episode is the very beginning of that.
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Back to today’s episode! Although this isn’t a teaching/expert interview episode, Elizabeth and I explore some important topics, including:
- To be a true ally, you must perform acts of solidarity (15 minutes and 48 seconds)
- Unpacking white supremacy and white privilege: the power of group. community, safe processing buddies, and collective intelligence (24:04)
- Shaming and tone policing in social media (25:54)
- An important distinction between shaming and holding people accountable; and fragility (30:27)
- Being of mixed race, whitewashing cultures, and being ethnically ambiguous (40:05)
- Dropping unconscious biases and exploring assumptions about health and overweight people (48:10)
Resources from this podcast:
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Elizabeth’s website, Wild Soul Movement
Elizabeth’s podcast episode with Bex Boruki
I’m Judging You: A Do-Better Manual by Luvvie Ajayi
The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
Andrea’s instagram post about Tess Holliday
Dave Chappelle’s The Racial Draft
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