I’m about to say something that goes against what you might be hearing from other self-help/motivational speakers/cheerleaders/thought leaders.
You don’t need a morning routine if you don’t want one.
Confession: I haven’t had a regular morning routine in about…well, never.
I know there are self-help books specifically written about this. That scientists with glasses and white lab coats with clipboards have painstakingly studied the human effects of morning routines and found that it helps people Live Their Best Life.
I know there are self-help people out there who have cute names for their lists of things they do in the morning, and keep telling you to get up an hour earlier than your early-rising children or dog, so that you can Live Your Best Life.
I know you might feel like you’re doing it all wrong if you stumble out of bed and reach for your phone and coffee first thing.
I know that the new year is full of NEW YEAR NEW YOU and that your morning routine feels like this *one thing* that you can change that will make 2019 your Best Year Ever.
I know that you have probably made morning commitments in the past like:
- Working out
- Setting intentions
- Doing a coffee enerma so you can shit like a beast
- Pulling an angel card so you can conjure your spirits and guides to be able to Live Your Best Year and Best Life Ever.
Or maybe it’s just me.
I also know that in the past, I have regularly set my intentions of the day and that worked for a while. And now it looks different. And that I have told you about my morning routines and maybe you felt like if you did it too, you’d be Living Your Best Life.
Here’s the thing: If you get up early and do whatever it is you need to do to set yourself up for the day, and you feel rested enough to do so and aren’t doing it because you think you have to– if you do these things because it does in fact help you Live Your Best Life, then HELL YES, SISTER!
Or, if you’ve tried a morning routine, and it’s made no significant positive changes in your life, then HELL YES, SISTER. You tried, and meh, it’s not for you.
Or, If just the thought of all that makes you want to go back to bed, then HELL YES, SISTER. It might not be for you either.
What I’m saying is watch out for the NEW YEAR NEW YOU trap that can make you feel like you’re doing it wrong. That can make you feel like you’re missing out, or that you’re not like everybody else. If you’d rather sleep the extra hour or 10 minutes, then sleep.
If you follow someone on social media and you’re comparing your life to theirs, and it kind of seems like their life is too good to be true (it probably is), and it’s all making you feel shitty, then unfollow them.
If they new year makes you feel motivated and inspired, then you do that. If the new year just feels like a new month and you’re just trying to keep your head above water, or you feel like the pace you’re going at is good for now, then you do that.
There’s no right or wrong way to Live Your Best Life.