Happy Wednesday! It’s been a full week since we watched or listened in horror as rioters breached the U.S. Capitol. In this episode, I have a quick chat (before our interview) with Jessica Sharp, my personal friend, and DEI consultant. As I’ve conveyed before, personal development and social justice work are directly connected, so Jessica and I discuss our thoughts on, “This isn’t who we are” (referring to the U.S.) and more.
Switching gears, when it comes to personal development and behaviors like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-achieving – the goal isn’t eradicating them. Instead, it’s recognizing when these behaviors jump into the driver’s seat and learning to draw on tools to help maneuver the road ahead. This week, Martina Barnes joins me to talk about these behaviors, how to recognize when they are taking over our “life bus,” and how to harness your reliable personal power.
Martina G. Barnes is an experienced psychotherapist, life fulfillment coach and master intuitive who helps high-achieving women transform the areas in their lives where they lack reliable personal power. She teaches women practical ways to shift how they show up for themselves and express Reliable Personal Power in every area of their lives.
In this episode you’ll hear:
- Recognizing that personal development work and social justice work are interwoven. (5:16)
- Common default behaviors women struggle with such as perfectionism, control, and people-pleasing and how Martina applies those behaviors to what she calls the “Life Bus” analogy. (20:00)
- What blocks high-achieving women from having Reliable Personal Power. (25:20)
- Not wanting to be perceived a certain way (ie: a bitch or aggressive, when standing up for yourself). (27:25)
- Opening ourselves to deeper intimacy and friendships – courage brings so many beautiful rewards. (34:10)
- How trauma impacts connection to your intuition. (42:16)
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Brené Brown’s Facebook live on the events in Charlottesville, VA in 2017
Scene on Radio’s podcast series: Seeing White
Hypnotherapy and Your Subconscious Mind with Amy E. Smith
Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt Frank
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Martina speaks and teaches about women’s empowerment in a way that has her audience engaged, laughing and nodding and in understanding. She teaches women practical ways to shift how they show up for themselves and express Reliable Personal Power in every area of their lives.
Martina G. Barnes is an experienced psychotherapist, life fulfillment coach, and master intuitive who helps high-achieving women transform the areas in their lives where they lack reliable personal power. She teaches her clients and audiences to Say Yes When You Want to Say Yes–And No When You Want to Say No…
So You Can Get Everything You Want Out of Life
A sought-after speaker, media contributor and author, Martina’s first book, The Meditation Doctor: A practical approach to treating common ailments through meditation has been translated into several languages. Her second book, The Reluctant Mystic is currently in revisions.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! 🎉🎉🎉 This new year might feel especially important because of what we all faced in 2020. While many struggles are not over, I want to extend an invitation to those of you who might need some extra support.
My lead coaches and I work with women in a few different areas. Maybe you want absolute clarity on what’s next for you in 2021 and need help on a plan to get there. We can help you with that and give you 100 percent support along your journey.
My personal specialty is a couple of different areas:
The first type of woman I work with is someone who’s had success in her career– maybe she’s climbed the corporate ladder, or has her own business, or is a freelancer– whatever it is her career has been a priority. People would never know she still struggles with confidence, as well as taking her career and life to the next level. I help these women understand and accept that they’re just getting started, and that so much more is possible for them. I teach them the tools they need to create more success.
The second type of woman may or may not have put her career first, she might be a mom of small or grown children, or motherhood may not be in her cards. She loves bettering herself and has seen some good results from the podcasts and books she listens to…and knows she has a problem with her relationship with alcohol. About half the clients I take on struggle here. While working with me is not a recovery program, I’m a certified She Recovers coach and have nine years of sobriety and recovery so I can help you get clarity, create a plan, and help you activate massive self-awareness that is unique to YOU. Let’s talk.