I’m so excited to welcome back Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina to talk about something so many of us quietly wrestle with: emotional outsourcing. Béa is a master certified somatic life coach, UCSF-trained family nurse practitioner, and breath work meditation guide who helps humans socialized as women break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so they can reclaim their joy. A lot of what we cover in today’s episode shows up in her brand new book End Emotional Outsourcing.
We dig into what emotional outsourcing really is, how we hand over our sense of safety, belonging and worth to everyone and everything outside of ourselves, and the ripple effect that has on boundaries, relationships and your nervous system. Béa explains why talk therapy alone can leave you stuck, what is actually happening when you freeze in the moment, and how perfectionism can sneak into healing and personal growth.
And because you know I love practical takeaways, Béa shares simple somatic tools you can use right now to come back home to yourself. These small but powerful shifts help you rebuild self trust and stop outsourcing your emotional wellness.
What you will hear in this episode:
- What emotional outsourcing really is and how codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing all fit under it (3:58)
- Béa explains what she means when she says, “you do this healing in relationship…” (25:36)
- Practical somatic practices to rebuild self-trust and move away from outsourcing (32:32)
- How to begin to rebuild trust with yourself and hear what your body wants (38:30)
Resources from this episode:
Andrea’s email list: andreaowen.com/free
Andrea on Instagram
Andrea’s coaching and application page
Beatriz’s book
Beatriz’s website
Episode 531: Navigating Triggers and Calming the Nervous System with Beatriz Victoria Albina
Book recommendations:
I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!
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Beatriz (Béa – Bay-uh) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Nurse Practitioner, a Master Certified Life Coach, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits. She has a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. Béa has helped thousands through her coaching programs, including Anchored, a six-month group coaching and somatic healing program for women with Emotional Outsourcing habits, and The Somatic Studio – her signature suite of science-backed, trauma-informed courses in nervous system and somatic intelligence. These courses guide participants through applied somatics, polyvagal theory, and body-based healing, offering a powerful foundation for self-regulation, self-trust, and embodied living. Her clients range from healthcare professionals to parents, therapists to tech execs – all united by a desire to stop living for everyone else and finally come home to themselves.
She is the host of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, which offers empowering holistic medicine, psychology and life coaching advice for smart women who believe they can live powerful, fulfilling lives with more self-worth, self-love, and true self-care. Her work has been featured in MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Goop, and on Apple’s top mental health podcast charts. She’s led trainings and workshops for organizations, universities, and international communities, bringing a bicultural, queer, Latina lens to everything she reaches. She holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health, and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade.